One of the biggest problems in a romantic relationship is understanding how your significant other interprets love. Most human beings grow up learning the language of love from our parents, which becomes our native language. As we get older, we may learn other languages, but usually with much more effort. In the field of love it is similar. Your emotional love language and that of your spouse may be as different as Spanish is from English: No matter how hard you try to express love in English, if your spouse only understands Spanish, you will never understand how to love each other. Husband and wife rarely have the same primary love language. We tend to speak our primary love language and feel confused when our spouse doesn't understand what we're communicating. Once you identify and learn to speak your spouse's primary love language, you will have discovered the key to a loving, long-lasting marriage. I came across a book that really helps you discover how they view romantic love. It's called "The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Spouse" by Dr. Gary Chapman.