“The beginning of love is the willingness to let those we love be perfectly themselves, the resolution not to distort them to fit our own image. If in loving them we do not love what they are, but only their potential resemblance to ourselves, then we do not love them: we love only the reflection of ourselves that we find in them” ― Thomas Merton, No Man Is an Island.When you fall in love with someone , do you really fall in love with that person, or do you fall in love with the person's idea of ​​how beautiful or "hot" they are, how beautiful or big their house is, how nice their car is? Sometimes in society people don't they fall in love with someone, but they fall more in love with the idea of ​​that person or being with that person. Love is misunderstood, explained, defined in many different ways, there are positive and negative sides to love. This theme is more suitable for the main character of The Great Gatsby, the famous, rich and beautiful Jaya Gatsby who is supposedly in love with Daisy or is it Daisy's idea? In this article I will explain my reasoning on this and provide specific examples. In The Great Gatsby Jay Gatsby tries to get closer to Daisy and be with her. Page 78 “Gatsby bought that house so Daisy would be right across the Bay.” In that quote Gatsby bought his house near Daisy so he could see her house right across the bay. Page “I talked to Miss Baker,” I said after a moment. Tomorrow I'll call Daisy and invite her over for tea. At this point Jay is trying to convince Nick to invite Daisy to tea at Gatsby's house. Gatsby continues to try to be with or close to Daisy no matter what. Gatsby dreams or has flashbacks of when he and Daisy were together and keeps thinking about what she was like. Page 148-14...... middle of paper ...... he has a lot to learn in his life and wants people to think he is an intelligent man when in the end he is not. You can conclude after reading this article about how sometimes in society people don't fall in love with someone, but more they fall in love with the idea of ​​that person or being with that person, Jay Gatsby is someone who fits this theme very well . Jay doesn't know what true love is and what it really means to fall in love with someone. Not just love them for what they have, how they look, but for who they are inside. I think you will find this behavior in the younger generation of teenagers or young adults, because they don't understand the true meaning of love yet. For future preference, when you are looking for someone to love, make sure you really love them, otherwise you may end up empty-handed and loveless. Don't end up like Jay Gatsby. Works Cited The Great Gatsby